YOU HAVE 2 CHILDREN. HOW DID YOU SHARE THE NEWS WITH
THEM?
I have a daughter and a son. I had to tell them right away. I didn't want
them to hear from someone else. How did I tell them? I would say I told
them through some heartfelt conversations over the phone. I told my
brothers and sisters right away, too. I had to get it out there. That's
part of the healing process. If you tell people right away, then they
know what you're going through. I wanted to tell my brothers especially
so they'd know the risks, too, and their family history.
HOW DID YOUR KIDS TAKE THE NEWS?
My daughter is 36 and a licensed therapist. After I told her, she was
very supportive. She'd send me texts saying things like, "Good luck,
Dad," and "I'm here for you." She'd call and email and ask if I needed
anything. At the beginning, it was a bit harder for my son, I think.
WHO ELSE CLOSE TO YOU DID YOU TELL RIGHT AWAY?
My sister. She's a nurse and very blunt. Through the whole process, she
was there, telling me: "You do this, now," or "You call and tell them
this." Or sometimes, when I would tell her what was going on, she'd say
"That's not good enough." My sister was a great source of support.
WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR FAMILY?
Prostate cancer is something that affects the whole family. I felt so
strongly about this that after I was diagnosed, I talked at churches on
Father's Day about how African American men are at increased risk for
prostate cancer. I introduced the topic in my own church, too. Half a
dozen men came up to me after, sharing stories and wanting to talk about
it.
ARE YOU GLAD YOU COULD TALK OPENLY WITH YOUR FAMILY ABOUT
PROSTATE CANCER?
I wouldn't be able to talk openly without my wife and my 2 adult
children. I love them to death. At the end of the day, you move forward
for them, and then for yourself. You have to let them in so they can be
there with you, and for you.